How (Not To) Holiday With Dogs 1

So here we are on our second night of five away from home on our West Lothian tour of dog-friendly accommodation.

Yesterday we packed the Leaf and drove to Uphall to check in to the Oatridge Hotel, which is quite a nice, clean and upwardly mobile first stop (construction going on in the beer garden (I even saw someone mowing the astroturf!)).

We checked in at 4:30pm or thereabouts and I settled up the remainder of the bill. Then my wife and son went to the local chippy for a special fish for myself, a fish supper for my son, a baked spud for my wife and an additional platter (for everyone, which everyone was too full to eat).

Those of you who have been to Uphall may remember the busy high street and intersection and not immediately be able to envision any green areas for dogs to roam, relax and do their business, but we managed to find a nice walk not too far from the hotel left across the bridge over the Broxburn (which is actually a burn (Scots. valley of the badgers)), up a path and right to a big green square.

Although she’d been fine in the car, for some reason our canine family member was extremely unhappy having to wait outside the chip-shop while my wife and son were inside, and slipped backwards out of her harness completely so I had to grab her between my knees to reapply it. Probably a wolf pack thing. Realised we should maybe have done some separation anxiety training with her little by little to help her get used to us randomly disappearing into shops. Who knows where she would have shot off to had she escaped, as un-street cred as she is. Probably the interior of the chippie.

Tried to watch a terrible movie about dragons on the misnamed Great! Movies on the TV with my son but could barely keep my eyes open. The early 2000s CGI was pretty good, however, and didn’t seem to match the poorness of the hairstyles which suggested 80s straight-to-VHS.

Couldn’t sleep due to worrying about the dog needing a pee, her barking every hour at sounds both real and imagined, me feeling too hot while simultaneously a chilly draft tickled across the small of my back due to not getting enough of the duvet as the dog was sleeping between us on the bed, the window rattling in its frame, birds screeching, the central heating humming and the green unblinking eye of the fire escape sign light above the door.

Hopefully tonight will be better.

Everything You Need From A Store

Yesterday I took a trip down memory lane as my mother asked me to get some groceries and pick up a prescription for her at a small shopping mall near my old high school. This I duly did, looking forward to visiting the old haunt and seeing what, if anything, had changed. 

My old school has long been demolished, rebuilt and renamed and I must say looks very shiny and new and well designed. The modern architecture looks good on it; a step or three up on the communist bloc design of my yesteryouth. I could almost forgive them for erasing part of my life from reality. Almost. But the school lives on in my memory and dreams: its crystal maze-esque one-way system of mouse shoulder-width corridors and stairwells; its ground floor of 'not quite inside not quite outside' pillar-strewn mental space with sharp concrete corners everywhere; its alphabetised Houses of destiny (I was in F) sticking out at right angles towards grass, greenness and glen; its science block plonked on almost as an afterthought; and its playground a prison exercise yard in the centre. My God. Memories gush forth like struck oil. But they're all by the by as I didn't even stop to take a photo of the new place (to which I have no attachment, positive, negative or otherwise except it looks nice and probably smells nice too).

Today I want to talk about the supermarket.

When I was a pre-schooler my mother used to trail me round Safeway on a weekly basis for the groceries. This would have been the late 70s. I clearly remember her allowing me to open 'as yet unpaid for' packets of goodies and then settling up the spent wrappers at the till on the way out. Imagine doing this nowadays. I have absolutely no idea how I am not crippled by debt by this unintended received philosophy even now. Perhaps it was my Dad's mindset that it was better to save up and buy stuff rather than put everything on credit cards which counteracted this. Or maybe I was affected in other ways, as I was too young to understand the economics of such a thing, just the joy of my mum letting me do something slightly naughty and delicious with no concern for the consequences. Perhaps I've been seeking out slightly naughty and delicious things ever since. Who doesn't?

One day, when I was slightly older, we were in the afore-mentioned Safeway and we'd become separated as I went off to find a packet of sweets. Having selected a tasty option I attempted to return to my mother but couldn't find her anywhere. After a while of carrying the sweet packet in my hand, without thinking I stuck them in my pocket while continuing my search. By the time I found her I had had this sudden heart-thumping and adrenalin-fueled epiphany: I'd just pocketed a packet of sweets in a supermarket and no-one had noticed. I looked around to see if I'd been spotted, but no. All I had to do was walk out with my mum, act natural, and get away with them scot-free! My God! My first taste of the thrills of breaking the law. As we approached the till my mouth became dry. The candy seemed to bulge in my trouser pockets. I couldn't resist staring guiltily at the adults. The cashier smiled at me. I gulped back at her. Act natural! I told myself. NATURAL GODDAMNIT!*

When we got home I scoffed the lot guiltily behind the garage. It never occurred to me until just now that if I'd simply put them in the shopping trolley mum would have bought them for me without batting a 70's mascara'd eyelid. Or even let me eat them and pay for the empty wrapper at the till. But where would the fun be in that? And so began my life of crime.

Another memory I have is of a friend and me going down the glen and collecting two big bin bags of empty beer and soft drink cans, testing them with magnets to see if they were aluminium, and then bringing them to this supermarket carpark where a scrap guy gave us a few quid for them. Happy days.

Back to the present. I pull my Leaf into the carpark to happily discover that Tesco, being the cheap bastards we love them for, haven't even properly painted over the remains of the old Safeway sign. This more than made up for the erasure of my high school from the annals of history. I feel myself return to solidity, like Marty McFly when his parents finally kiss at the end of Back To The Future. Although upon entry to the supermarket I find it claustrophobically small compared to the planet-sized Asdas and Morrisons to which we are now used. How could I have gotten lost from my own mother in such a tiny grocery store back in the day? You can almost see every part of the shop from a standing position near the door. While gathering the requested shopping - fruit, corned beef and decaf cappucino pouches - I can't help chancing eye contact with everyone I meet, perhaps to see if I know them, they me, or anyone has any knowledge of my past transgressions 40 years prior.

Nearby is the fish and chip shop I'd occasionally escape to from high school and patronise (hah, call yourself a chippie?) for a deep fried pizza at lunchtime. Since you ask, I rarely truanted from school; I only have one vague memory of jumping out a ground floor window and strolling off without a care over the grass, but this is so fuzzy it could well have been a dream.

The whole place seems a little run down. The only establishment doing well is the pub - the Bonnie Prince Charlie - enjoying a recent lick of paint and flowers in hanging baskets. One place is a new and worthwhile addition to the square: a Men's Shed, a sign of the times perhaps, or at least something that wouldn't have existed 40 years ago. Looks like a solid place. Might pop in one of these days. 

It being a Sunday though, the pharmacy is, perhaps predictably, closed, rendering the whole trip ultimately pointless. I could have got the shopping at the new LIDL down the road.

*Slightly dramatised for the purposes of artistic licence.

All Ruts Lead To Rome

Today finds me in a ruminative state of mind, and what I'm ruminating about is ... ruts. 

Yes, those deep, narrow canyons in muddy roads worn down by over-frequent tyre-contact, that it's difficult to get out of. I mean habits. Lifestyle. Routines. Repetitive acts into which by chance or design we have fallen. At the age I am now, I have a lot. That's how we survive. We can't continuously scrutinate* every action afresh to judge whether it is worth continuing. We must focus on the other more important things, besides, if it ain't broke, don't fix it, right? And ruts work. They get you places. I'm goin' somewhere, man. Groove-y! The trouble is, what if you want to go somewhere else? Inject a little spontaneity into your life and suddenly decide you want to visit Quthing, Lesotho for some reason? Then you're gonna want out of that rut. And what happens when we try to get out of ruts? It's hard. It takes effort. If you're on a bike you might fall over and get a mouthful of dirt. 

In short, ruts suck.

But we are in them, often unconsciously, which is of course the nature of the rut. We do 'em on autopilot, allowing us instead to focus on the more important things, like replaying scenes from old films in our minds, such as Jim Carrey squeezing himself out of the ass of a giant rhino.

If you're anything like me, you wake up in the morning. You stretch. You wash my face. If it's a work day and you're prone to unnecessary facial hair, you shave. You go downstairs and play with and feed the dog. You put three cups and a glass on the kitchen counter and prepare the Four Drinks of the Healthy Lifestyle Apocalypse: coffee, warm water, green tea and orange juice. You take them upstairs and imbibe them in the following order: warm water, to clean your insides; coffee, because it tastes nice; orange juice, because it's cold; and finally, once it's had a chance to cool down slightly, the green tea, which if you're not careful can burn the darn mouth off you.

So what's my point, I hear you ask, or in the comments, read. Well, my point is, as busy as my past year has become, I've been forced to prioritize, which has meant pruning my own personal tree of life. Snipping off the branches which, perhaps were nice to have, in order to make room for the more important trunk. 

Perhaps I've pruned too much. Maybe the tree of life needs those branches, otherwise it's nothing but a pointy, brittle, fruitless, birdy-less stump, no more able to grow or bend than dry, dead wood.

It strikes me that a rut is basically a long, narrow, endless cage, with the same windowless view on either side that we sleepwalk along like automatons; blinkered shuffling sheep-zombies guided towards inevitable sheering, dipping, or worse - death. 

On a happier note, solutions abound! Skive a day off a week just to do something different, new, fresh. Take risks. Leave your phone at home. Talk to strangers. Embark on journeys without knowing the destination. Do some of the stuff you haven't done for ages just for the hell of it.

Here, rather than me publish a long list of things I used to do that brought happiness, why don't you take out a piece of paper and a pencil and write down all those things you have fond memories of doing, but have not done in so long. Keep going until you can think of no more. Then stick it to your wall or door - wherever you can see it. Dip into it whenever you feel you're in a rut.

*I know.