Everything You Need From A Store

Yesterday I took a trip down memory lane as my mother asked me to get some groceries and pick up a prescription for her at a small shopping mall near my old high school. This I duly did, looking forward to visiting the old haunt and seeing what, if anything, had changed. 

My old school has long been demolished, rebuilt and renamed and I must say looks very shiny and new and well designed. The modern architecture looks good on it; a step or three up on the communist bloc design of my yesteryouth. I could almost forgive them for erasing part of my life from reality. Almost. But the school lives on in my memory and dreams: its crystal maze-esque one-way system of mouse shoulder-width corridors and stairwells; its ground floor of 'not quite inside not quite outside' pillar-strewn mental space with sharp concrete corners everywhere; its alphabetised Houses of destiny (I was in F) sticking out at right angles towards grass, greenness and glen; its science block plonked on almost as an afterthought; and its playground a prison exercise yard in the centre. My God. Memories gush forth like struck oil. But they're all by the by as I didn't even stop to take a photo of the new place (to which I have no attachment, positive, negative or otherwise except it looks nice and probably smells nice too).

Today I want to talk about the supermarket.

When I was a pre-schooler my mother used to trail me round Safeway on a weekly basis for the groceries. This would have been the late 70s. I clearly remember her allowing me to open 'as yet unpaid for' packets of goodies and then settling up the spent wrappers at the till on the way out. Imagine doing this nowadays. I have absolutely no idea how I am not crippled by debt by this unintended received philosophy even now. Perhaps it was my Dad's mindset that it was better to save up and buy stuff rather than put everything on credit cards which counteracted this. Or maybe I was affected in other ways, as I was too young to understand the economics of such a thing, just the joy of my mum letting me do something slightly naughty and delicious with no concern for the consequences. Perhaps I've been seeking out slightly naughty and delicious things ever since. Who doesn't?

One day, when I was slightly older, we were in the afore-mentioned Safeway and we'd become separated as I went off to find a packet of sweets. Having selected a tasty option I attempted to return to my mother but couldn't find her anywhere. After a while of carrying the sweet packet in my hand, without thinking I stuck them in my pocket while continuing my search. By the time I found her I had had this sudden heart-thumping and adrenalin-fueled epiphany: I'd just pocketed a packet of sweets in a supermarket and no-one had noticed. I looked around to see if I'd been spotted, but no. All I had to do was walk out with my mum, act natural, and get away with them scot-free! My God! My first taste of the thrills of breaking the law. As we approached the till my mouth became dry. The candy seemed to bulge in my trouser pockets. I couldn't resist staring guiltily at the adults. The cashier smiled at me. I gulped back at her. Act natural! I told myself. NATURAL GODDAMNIT!*

When we got home I scoffed the lot guiltily behind the garage. It never occurred to me until just now that if I'd simply put them in the shopping trolley mum would have bought them for me without batting a 70's mascara'd eyelid. Or even let me eat them and pay for the empty wrapper at the till. But where would the fun be in that? And so began my life of crime.

Another memory I have is of a friend and me going down the glen and collecting two big bin bags of empty beer and soft drink cans, testing them with magnets to see if they were aluminium, and then bringing them to this supermarket carpark where a scrap guy gave us a few quid for them. Happy days.

Back to the present. I pull my Leaf into the carpark to happily discover that Tesco, being the cheap bastards we love them for, haven't even properly painted over the remains of the old Safeway sign. This more than made up for the erasure of my high school from the annals of history. I feel myself return to solidity, like Marty McFly when his parents finally kiss at the end of Back To The Future. Although upon entry to the supermarket I find it claustrophobically small compared to the planet-sized Asdas and Morrisons to which we are now used. How could I have gotten lost from my own mother in such a tiny grocery store back in the day? You can almost see every part of the shop from a standing position near the door. While gathering the requested shopping - fruit, corned beef and decaf cappucino pouches - I can't help chancing eye contact with everyone I meet, perhaps to see if I know them, they me, or anyone has any knowledge of my past transgressions 40 years prior.

Nearby is the fish and chip shop I'd occasionally escape to from high school and patronise (hah, call yourself a chippie?) for a deep fried pizza at lunchtime. Since you ask, I rarely truanted from school; I only have one vague memory of jumping out a ground floor window and strolling off without a care over the grass, but this is so fuzzy it could well have been a dream.

The whole place seems a little run down. The only establishment doing well is the pub - the Bonnie Prince Charlie - enjoying a recent lick of paint and flowers in hanging baskets. One place is a new and worthwhile addition to the square: a Men's Shed, a sign of the times perhaps, or at least something that wouldn't have existed 40 years ago. Looks like a solid place. Might pop in one of these days. 

It being a Sunday though, the pharmacy is, perhaps predictably, closed, rendering the whole trip ultimately pointless. I could have got the shopping at the new LIDL down the road.

*Slightly dramatised for the purposes of artistic licence.

All Ruts Lead To Rome

Today finds me in a ruminative state of mind, and what I'm ruminating about is ... ruts. 

Yes, those deep, narrow canyons in muddy roads worn down by over-frequent tyre-contact, that it's difficult to get out of. I mean habits. Lifestyle. Routines. Repetitive acts into which by chance or design we have fallen. At the age I am now, I have a lot. That's how we survive. We can't continuously scrutinate* every action afresh to judge whether it is worth continuing. We must focus on the other more important things, besides, if it ain't broke, don't fix it, right? And ruts work. They get you places. I'm goin' somewhere, man. Groove-y! The trouble is, what if you want to go somewhere else? Inject a little spontaneity into your life and suddenly decide you want to visit Quthing, Lesotho for some reason? Then you're gonna want out of that rut. And what happens when we try to get out of ruts? It's hard. It takes effort. If you're on a bike you might fall over and get a mouthful of dirt. 

In short, ruts suck.

But we are in them, often unconsciously, which is of course the nature of the rut. We do 'em on autopilot, allowing us instead to focus on the more important things, like replaying scenes from old films in our minds, such as Jim Carrey squeezing himself out of the ass of a giant rhino.

If you're anything like me, you wake up in the morning. You stretch. You wash my face. If it's a work day and you're prone to unnecessary facial hair, you shave. You go downstairs and play with and feed the dog. You put three cups and a glass on the kitchen counter and prepare the Four Drinks of the Healthy Lifestyle Apocalypse: coffee, warm water, green tea and orange juice. You take them upstairs and imbibe them in the following order: warm water, to clean your insides; coffee, because it tastes nice; orange juice, because it's cold; and finally, once it's had a chance to cool down slightly, the green tea, which if you're not careful can burn the darn mouth off you.

So what's my point, I hear you ask, or in the comments, read. Well, my point is, as busy as my past year has become, I've been forced to prioritize, which has meant pruning my own personal tree of life. Snipping off the branches which, perhaps were nice to have, in order to make room for the more important trunk. 

Perhaps I've pruned too much. Maybe the tree of life needs those branches, otherwise it's nothing but a pointy, brittle, fruitless, birdy-less stump, no more able to grow or bend than dry, dead wood.

It strikes me that a rut is basically a long, narrow, endless cage, with the same windowless view on either side that we sleepwalk along like automatons; blinkered shuffling sheep-zombies guided towards inevitable sheering, dipping, or worse - death. 

On a happier note, solutions abound! Skive a day off a week just to do something different, new, fresh. Take risks. Leave your phone at home. Talk to strangers. Embark on journeys without knowing the destination. Do some of the stuff you haven't done for ages just for the hell of it.

Here, rather than me publish a long list of things I used to do that brought happiness, why don't you take out a piece of paper and a pencil and write down all those things you have fond memories of doing, but have not done in so long. Keep going until you can think of no more. Then stick it to your wall or door - wherever you can see it. Dip into it whenever you feel you're in a rut.

*I know.

The Pursuit of Will Power

Good morning world!

This edition is beamed to you from a sleepy, drizzly, mild last Sunday in April in Scotland.

The locals have barely surfaced. The roads are quiet. The dogs, save those yapping, are napping. We'll just let those ones lie.

I would like to share my thoughts with you about will power; my wonderings, my questions, my confusion.

What is it and where does it come from? How does one generate more, if possible?

Oscar Wilde once said, "I can resist anything except temptation." But what does this mean? Is he saying it's okay to give in to cravings? Or is he just identifying that, like me, he has little will power? Or is he just making an amusing and clever comment, which starts off strong: "I can resist anything" and ends : "except temptation" which is of course the vehicle by which we are transported to what we want; a streetcar named Desire.

These days I find myself drifting along with a vague sense of impending doom. As if I'm in a rowing boat on a river heading for the top of a waterfall. I really should row. But it's just such a pleasant ride. The riverbanks are bustling with bunnies, the sun is sparkling on the water, the birds are singing, the fish are leaping over the prow. Ahh, it's so pleasant just to lie here with my feet up on the edge without a care in the world.

Wait, is that a faint splashing I can hear? Is that crashing crescendo getting louder? Hmf, it's still a long way off. I'll deal with that when it comes.

But hey, it's such a lovely ride. Sit here with me for a little while. Enjoy it.

Which brings me back to will power. How to get it? I could row if I wanted to, but I don't. 

The thought occurred to me not long ago that perhaps will power is a muscle, like physical power. You gain it by using it. And at the very least, things will get done in pursuit. If I install the loft ladder perhaps this will give me the strength to lay the insulation. If I force myself to dig the garden maybe I will gain the wherewithall to plant things. At the very least the loft ladder will be installed and the garden will be dug.

Then again there's the question of life. I was saddened recently to hear of the passing of Jerry Springer at 79. If someone so likeable, successful and famous can't cheat death, then what chance have the rest of us got? Sean Connery made it to 90. He definitely squeezed every last drop out of life.

So maybe the question shouldn't be : "Where does one get more willpower?" Perhaps it should be : "How can one live better?" And by better I mean longer, happier, and leaving the world a better place than how you found it.

But the irony is you really need willpower to live a longer, happier life which leaves the world a better place. Sitting on the sofa all day, every day, watching box sets and chowing down on mint Aeros is not going to cut it.

So, to summarize then. What have we learnt from this morning's musings? 

I guess, as with everything, it's balance. Balance the box sets and Aeros with jogging and carrots. Balance the lying in the boat trailing fingertips in the water with periods of frantic rowing. Balance the work with the joy.

Yin and yang, innit?

Yin without Yang is like Cheech without Chong

Maybe laziness is like fear. It's there to be overcome. It's not just about doing the things you want when you want. It's about wielding the savage sword of will power and smiting down your laziness with one fell swoop, thus washing the dishes and checking the tyre pressure of your car, not 'when you feel like it' but when it's appropriate.

As the winged goddess of victory once quoth, "Just do it." 

And as Larry the Cable Guy once quoth, "Git 'er done!"

A New Arrival

Been a while since my last confession. Probably because I've been putting all my interesting life events into my monthly newsletters. 

We got an eight week old puppy on the 28th of January which has completely changed our lives and disrupted all patterns and positive habits I'd set up. Gone are the early writing mornings. Absent is the tri-weekly exercise regime. Suspiciously elsewhere are the healthy eating philosophy and one coffee-a-day rule. The daily guitar grind has dried up. Office is a mess. Don't know where anything is.

It's all gone, in the words of Aristotle, "These feta pies taste weird."

But "Use it or lose it" they say so here I am. They also say "Early to bed, early to rise..." but how am I supposed to unwind after a hard day with two hours of action-packed first-person shooter Apex Legends, trying to take out and/or hide from 50 other players bent on my immediate destruction and go to bed early at the same time? Impossible.

You see my problem.

A Day

Well, it's been a surprisingly good day.

Came to without much difficulty after a sober, not so late Friday night.

Son is recovering from covid therefore no school, so no rush to finish homework or get ready.

Took car to garage due to unpleasant rattling underneath floor and dropped it in at 9am saying hi to the guys.

Dropped a couple of Archers into the charity shop.

Went for coffee in the old cafe and did some proof-reading of The Luminari, chuckling despite myself at bits I'd forgotten writing.

Got a call halfway down my cup that car was already fixed.

Went back to pick it up (bumping into fellow West Lothian Writer and Film-maker Susi J Smith outside said charity shop) and they said a heat shield had come undone possibly due to going through water too fast (which I do recall doing). Didn't charge me.

Drove to car park behind Scotmid, kindly manoeuvring out the way of another car, the driver of which gave me an appreciative wave. Car no longer rattling.

Purchased some bread rolls and cartons of OJ.

Went for a walk around the graveyard of the old overgrown Kirk with my camera, but ultimately felt it was wrong to take any photos.

Thought about life and death, permanence and longevity, and counted my lucky stars I'd made it to 47, as back in the 1800s it didn't seem a given, or today.

Walked back to car where I put the seat back, wound down the windows, turned up the volume and listened to some Kaiser Chiefs asking me why I was so sad and reassuring me that sex makes everything better while proofreading more Luminari.

Drove home with unrattling car.

Actioned new edits on Luminari and scrolled social media until lunch.

Made myself a couple of rolls, a pot of tea and consumed while reading more of Billy Connolly's excellent autobiography, 'Windswept and Interesting'.

Prepared for lesson and went out for walk.

Narrowly avoided being roped into buying alcohol for underagers at the garage. Continued my stroll imagining what I'd do if I'd been confronted with a knife.

Had a nice good lesson.

Got an absurdly high after-buzz. Smashed out a few folk songs loudly on harmonica and guitar without realising wife had gone to bed.

Chatted briefly with son's friend through his earphones while in middle of Switch gameplay.

Powered by the hunger, came downstairs and made several hummus on crackers with sliced mini toms.

Continued amending blinds, now finished the whole right hand side.

Sat down with a cup of green tea and wrote this.

Got movie night and possibly a glass of wine to look forward to.

It's good to be alive.

Free at last!

Graduated from St Andrews University with a 2:1 BSc in Physics & Electronics.

Released at last from the education system I was now determined to make some of my own choices and see where they lead me, come what may. Little would I know until much later that a liver-related diabetic condition would be one such repercussion. A small baby growing into a young adult would be another.

I often look back and think, why on earth didn't I just get a well paid and stable physics-related job?

And in another dimension no doubt I look back and think, why on earth didn't I just throw caution to the wind and travel the world?